Natural development of relationship has five stages. The first stage being becoming acquaintance where depending upon previous relationship, there physical proximity and their first impression, the two subjects meet each other and become friends, associates or colleague. There are several places of proximity like schools, colleges, workplace, playgrounds or cinema halls etc. The second stage is building up of this relationship where they begin to trust and care each other. During this stage they also try to find out compatibility and common grounds of agreements. The goal will also influence if they would interaction for prolonged period or not. This stage leads to third stage of mutual commitment to long term relationship as friends, romantic relationship or marriage. This follows long period of stable relationship but it needs strong base of mutual trust. The fourth stage is either upward spiral or deterioration of relationship depending upon if there is complete submersion of trust or breach of trust from any of the partner. The development of fourth stage happens due to many factors some of them are external and some are psychological.
The external reasons being high levels of stress where people are forced to work in undesirable working conditions, which lead to frustration and anger. This is topped by the family pressure, which aggravates the situation further. This leads to perilous situations, like divorce in case of married couples or complete cut-off or non association from either side.
Lack of time is the common story in every household. Couples do not have time for friends, family, children, and even for themselves. The cut throat competition in the professional field and the household responsibilities do not leave any time for the partners. Thus, the connection between the two begins to fade. The luster and spark in the relationship becomes low, leading to rather monotonous relationship.
One of the most widespread challenges in a relationship is the threat of infidelity or adultery in case of married couples. In the present scenario, both the partners are working and spend a major chunk of the time away from each other. Even the remaining time is utilized in taking take care of other responsibilities. This does not provide partners enough time to please each other physically and emotionally. This leads to attraction outside marriage.
Lack of communication widens gap between married couples in a relationship. It can lead to serious problems, if not taken care of in time. The result might be an increasing the distance between the partners, alienating them and making them indifferent towards each others feelings, desires and wants. Therefore, it is utterly necessary for the partners to communicate with each other on regular basis, so that they can relate with each other effectively.
Finance related issues are amongst the most common challenges faced by couples nowadays. In a relationship, couples are expected to manage and cooperate in the expenditure and savings of their wealth. However, difference in opinion, with relation to the above-mentioned facts, can really cause problems. If they are business partners then Ambiguity in ambitions, expectations and strategy, with respect to finances, can be hazardous for them.
The first sign of challenges in relationship is when both partners begin to feel resistance. Resistance occurs when we take exceptions or feel annoyed or feel separate from a person. Most people do not communicate if they feel sense of resistance and this emotion leads to resentment or anger. People who begin to feel separate start building emotional barriers. This leads to further destruction of relationship which if not communicated will give rise to rejection. At this point, each partner would start making his partner wrong for every small thing mounting verbal or non verbal attack. They start perceiving everything done by their partners annoying and irritating. At this state not only emotional separation occurs but physical separation as well. If this stage is allowed then this leads to repression. Both partners tired of coping with anger, create emotional numbness. They avoid feeling pain but also avoid passion and excitement. This is most dangerous phase of relationship because at this point lovers or husband wife become roommates. Nobody will notice any problem because they never fight but there is no relationship left. They isolate each other. These are psychological challenges for married couple, lovers or couple with live-in relationship.
The final stage marks the end of the relationship, in the case of a healthy relationship, or separation between two of them.
The relationship has to be nurtured by values and rules of peoples with whom we have relationship. There is a quote of Anthony Robbins which is so true about enduring relationship. It says “Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give and not a place that you go to take”.
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