Those who believe that they have reached a dead end in their relationship are actually at the perfect point to turn things around. Whether you're struggling with a relationship stalemate or concerned about your long-distance relationship, can learn how to make up, stay together, and move forward toward real and lasting love. Development of relation takes place if some rules of relationship are followed.
The first golden rule of successful relationship is to accept the values and rules of the people with whom we share a relationship. The values include commitment of trust, love and care for each other. Every person has his own rules with whom we intimately involve which makes up their identity. It is also true that in some cases these rules will clash. If the rules of other persons are broken consistently, it brings stress in the relationship. Knowing other persons rules will ward off the danger of these clashes in advance.
The second golden rule is relationship is always demanding. There the subjects have to give each other rather than take from each other. If we decide to go into the relationship then we have to make ourselves ready to face challenge of giving rather than taking. If we are going into relationship expecting anything then this would work out against us.
The third golden rule is to look for signals. We have to look out for these signals in relationship, which have to be tackled immediately otherwise things may go out of hand. These signals are resistance, resentment, rejection and repression. The solution to these phases is communication between partners. Avoid confrontation at any cost. Talk in terms of preferences.
The fourth golden rule is to make relationship highest priority of life. Gradually other priorities which are not that urgent will give way to emotional intensity simply because we do not want to loose the relationship. This is power of relationship.
The fifth golden rule is to focus on how to make this relationship better each day rather then ending it. This rule is for married couple. If we want relationship to last then don’t ever threaten the relationship itself by saying if you do that then I am leaving. These statements create destabilizing fears. No matter how hurt or angry we feel, never to question if the relationship will last.
The sixth golden rule is to re-associate with what we love about a person. We have to reinforce feeling of connection and privilege of sharing life with the person we love. This pleasure should be felt intensely.
Apart from following these golden rules, we also have to learn the skill to handle people. It is very easy to make people like you and win their hearts but we cannot win them to our way of thinking. We can win them only by their way of thinking. It needs skill and understanding of psychology of the people to change them without giving offense and without arousing resentment.
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