There are some fundamental techniques required to make people like you and win their heart. If we follow these rules then the whole world is with you. The first rule is to develop ability to speak well because these words will make their way to the people’s heart. Never criticize, condemn or complain about a person. Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person's precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct. Instead of condemning people, let's try to understand them. Begin criticism with sincere praise. Give attention to people's mistakes indirectly. Admitting one's own mistakes - even when one hasn't corrected them, this can help convince somebody to change his behavior. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person. Use praise instead of criticism. Abilities decline and become weak under criticism; they blossom under encouragement.
Some of the things most people want in their life include 1. Health and the preservation of life. 2. Food. 3. Sleep. 4. Money and the things money will buy. 5. Life in the hereafter. 6. Sexual gratification. 7. The well-being of our children and 8. The feeling of importance. All these desires can be gratified except last one and that is, “A feeling of importance or getting appreciated and loved.” Always make the other person feel important. The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature and the deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated. It is this urge that differentiates us from the animals. It is this urge that has been responsible for civilization itself. This appreciation should be sincere without any flattery. Flattery is shallow, selfish and insincere and will not work with discerning people. He who can do this has the whole world with him.
To make good impression, the first act is to smile at people. This smile should be genuine and should come from the bottom of the heart. We should not fear being misunderstood but should fix in our mind firmly what we would like to do. Preserve a right mental attitude of courage, frankness, and good cheer after that every sincere prayer gets answered. Our smile is a messenger of our good will which brightens the lives of all who see it. Our smile is like the sun breaking through the clouds. Especially when someone is under pressure, a smile can help him realize that all is not hopeless – that there is joy in the world.
Let us remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language. People like to be remembered by their names. Some of the things which make people like us are the fact that people are not interested in us. They are interested in themselves. If we are genuinely interested in any person, attention to the person who is speaking to us is very important. Nothing else is as flattering as that. This is also a secret of successful interview. Ask questions that other persons will enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves and their accomplishments. People prefer to listen to those who talk about what interests them. Talking in terms of the other person's interests pays off for both parties.
Our way of thinking is the only way to win the people. First rule is we must avoid arguments. We can't win an argument. Suppose we triumph over the other man and prove that he is wrong. We will feel fine but we have made him feel inferior. We may achieve a victory we will never get his good will. We must show sympathetic desire to see the other person's viewpoint. Listen first. Give our opponents a chance to talk. Let them finish. Do not resist, defend or debate. This only raises barriers. Try to build bridges of understanding. Look for areas of agreement. Dwell first on the points and areas on which we agree. Promise to think over your opponents' ideas and study them carefully. Our opponents may be right. Postpone action to give both sides time to think through the problem. Apologize for your mistakes. Admit it if we are wrong. It will help disarm your opponents and reduce defensiveness. We will never get into trouble by admitting that we may be wrong. That will stop all argument and inspire your opponent to be just as fair and open and broad-minded as you are. It will make him want to admit that he, too, may be wrong. If we know positively that a person is wrong, and we bluntly tell him or her so, what happens? We create our immediate enemy. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong." Always adopt friendly, sympathetic, appreciative approach and we can win any arguments. Gentleness and friendliness were always stronger than fury and force. The friendly approach and appreciation can make people change their minds more readily. Most of the people you will ever meet are hungering and thirsting for sympathy. Give it to them, and they will love you. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
Some times it is important to allow other person to save his face. It is very important. We ride very rough over the feelings of others, getting our own way, finding fault, issuing threats, criticizing a child or an employee in front of others, without even considering the hurt to the other person's pride. Whereas a few minutes' thought, a considerate word or two, a genuine understanding of the other person's attitude, would go so far toward easing the sting! Always make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.
Nagging is the deadliest. It always destroys and kills conjugal marital life. Does all this nagging and scolding and raging changes a person? Yes. It certainly changes his attitude toward his wife. Because it makes a person regret his unfortunate marriage and it makes him avoid her presence as much as possible. It brings nothing but tragedy into their lives and destroys all that they cherished most. So, if we want to keep our home life happy, never nag. Success in marriage is much more than a matter of finding the right person; it is also a matter of being the right person. Never interfere in their way of being happy themselves. Don’t try to change each other. Let them have their own private lives. Refrain from domestic criticism. Be considerate. Men should express their appreciation of a woman's effort to look well and dress well too. All men never realize that women are profoundly interested in clothes.
If a woman is to find happiness at all in her husband, she is to find it in his appreciation, and devotion. If that appreciation and devotion is genuine, there is the answer to his happiness also. Too many men underestimate the value of small, everyday attentions like reciprocating wife's waving good-bye to her husband when he goes to work in the morning and by remembering birthdays and anniversaries. Love passes through these small little things. Let us not neglect it. Rudeness is the cancer that devours love. Everyone knows this, yet it's notorious that we are more polite to strangers than we are to our own relatives. Courtesy is very important to marriage. We must shed our workaday troubles before we enter our homes. Many psychologist say failure in marriage occurs due to four reasons and these reasons are sexual maladjustments or incompatibilities, difference of opinion due to spending of leisure hours, financial difficulties and mental, physical and emotional abnormalities.
In a nutshell, values guide our decisions and so guide our lives and destiny. Those who know their values and live by them become leaders of our society. It is our commitment to values which make us exemplified individuals.
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
Sunday, May 2, 2010
FUNDAMENTAL RULES OF SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIPS
Those who believe that they have reached a dead end in their relationship are actually at the perfect point to turn things around. Whether you're struggling with a relationship stalemate or concerned about your long-distance relationship, can learn how to make up, stay together, and move forward toward real and lasting love. Development of relation takes place if some rules of relationship are followed.
The first golden rule of successful relationship is to accept the values and rules of the people with whom we share a relationship. The values include commitment of trust, love and care for each other. Every person has his own rules with whom we intimately involve which makes up their identity. It is also true that in some cases these rules will clash. If the rules of other persons are broken consistently, it brings stress in the relationship. Knowing other persons rules will ward off the danger of these clashes in advance.
The second golden rule is relationship is always demanding. There the subjects have to give each other rather than take from each other. If we decide to go into the relationship then we have to make ourselves ready to face challenge of giving rather than taking. If we are going into relationship expecting anything then this would work out against us.
The third golden rule is to look for signals. We have to look out for these signals in relationship, which have to be tackled immediately otherwise things may go out of hand. These signals are resistance, resentment, rejection and repression. The solution to these phases is communication between partners. Avoid confrontation at any cost. Talk in terms of preferences.
The fourth golden rule is to make relationship highest priority of life. Gradually other priorities which are not that urgent will give way to emotional intensity simply because we do not want to loose the relationship. This is power of relationship.
The fifth golden rule is to focus on how to make this relationship better each day rather then ending it. This rule is for married couple. If we want relationship to last then don’t ever threaten the relationship itself by saying if you do that then I am leaving. These statements create destabilizing fears. No matter how hurt or angry we feel, never to question if the relationship will last.
The sixth golden rule is to re-associate with what we love about a person. We have to reinforce feeling of connection and privilege of sharing life with the person we love. This pleasure should be felt intensely.
Apart from following these golden rules, we also have to learn the skill to handle people. It is very easy to make people like you and win their hearts but we cannot win them to our way of thinking. We can win them only by their way of thinking. It needs skill and understanding of psychology of the people to change them without giving offense and without arousing resentment.
The first golden rule of successful relationship is to accept the values and rules of the people with whom we share a relationship. The values include commitment of trust, love and care for each other. Every person has his own rules with whom we intimately involve which makes up their identity. It is also true that in some cases these rules will clash. If the rules of other persons are broken consistently, it brings stress in the relationship. Knowing other persons rules will ward off the danger of these clashes in advance.
The second golden rule is relationship is always demanding. There the subjects have to give each other rather than take from each other. If we decide to go into the relationship then we have to make ourselves ready to face challenge of giving rather than taking. If we are going into relationship expecting anything then this would work out against us.
The third golden rule is to look for signals. We have to look out for these signals in relationship, which have to be tackled immediately otherwise things may go out of hand. These signals are resistance, resentment, rejection and repression. The solution to these phases is communication between partners. Avoid confrontation at any cost. Talk in terms of preferences.
The fourth golden rule is to make relationship highest priority of life. Gradually other priorities which are not that urgent will give way to emotional intensity simply because we do not want to loose the relationship. This is power of relationship.
The fifth golden rule is to focus on how to make this relationship better each day rather then ending it. This rule is for married couple. If we want relationship to last then don’t ever threaten the relationship itself by saying if you do that then I am leaving. These statements create destabilizing fears. No matter how hurt or angry we feel, never to question if the relationship will last.
The sixth golden rule is to re-associate with what we love about a person. We have to reinforce feeling of connection and privilege of sharing life with the person we love. This pleasure should be felt intensely.
Apart from following these golden rules, we also have to learn the skill to handle people. It is very easy to make people like you and win their hearts but we cannot win them to our way of thinking. We can win them only by their way of thinking. It needs skill and understanding of psychology of the people to change them without giving offense and without arousing resentment.
Saturday, April 24, 2010
CHALLENGES IN RELATIONSHIPS
Natural development of relationship has five stages. The first stage being becoming acquaintance where depending upon previous relationship, there physical proximity and their first impression, the two subjects meet each other and become friends, associates or colleague. There are several places of proximity like schools, colleges, workplace, playgrounds or cinema halls etc. The second stage is building up of this relationship where they begin to trust and care each other. During this stage they also try to find out compatibility and common grounds of agreements. The goal will also influence if they would interaction for prolonged period or not. This stage leads to third stage of mutual commitment to long term relationship as friends, romantic relationship or marriage. This follows long period of stable relationship but it needs strong base of mutual trust. The fourth stage is either upward spiral or deterioration of relationship depending upon if there is complete submersion of trust or breach of trust from any of the partner. The development of fourth stage happens due to many factors some of them are external and some are psychological.
The external reasons being high levels of stress where people are forced to work in undesirable working conditions, which lead to frustration and anger. This is topped by the family pressure, which aggravates the situation further. This leads to perilous situations, like divorce in case of married couples or complete cut-off or non association from either side.
Lack of time is the common story in every household. Couples do not have time for friends, family, children, and even for themselves. The cut throat competition in the professional field and the household responsibilities do not leave any time for the partners. Thus, the connection between the two begins to fade. The luster and spark in the relationship becomes low, leading to rather monotonous relationship.
One of the most widespread challenges in a relationship is the threat of infidelity or adultery in case of married couples. In the present scenario, both the partners are working and spend a major chunk of the time away from each other. Even the remaining time is utilized in taking take care of other responsibilities. This does not provide partners enough time to please each other physically and emotionally. This leads to attraction outside marriage.
Lack of communication widens gap between married couples in a relationship. It can lead to serious problems, if not taken care of in time. The result might be an increasing the distance between the partners, alienating them and making them indifferent towards each others feelings, desires and wants. Therefore, it is utterly necessary for the partners to communicate with each other on regular basis, so that they can relate with each other effectively.
Finance related issues are amongst the most common challenges faced by couples nowadays. In a relationship, couples are expected to manage and cooperate in the expenditure and savings of their wealth. However, difference in opinion, with relation to the above-mentioned facts, can really cause problems. If they are business partners then Ambiguity in ambitions, expectations and strategy, with respect to finances, can be hazardous for them.
The first sign of challenges in relationship is when both partners begin to feel resistance. Resistance occurs when we take exceptions or feel annoyed or feel separate from a person. Most people do not communicate if they feel sense of resistance and this emotion leads to resentment or anger. People who begin to feel separate start building emotional barriers. This leads to further destruction of relationship which if not communicated will give rise to rejection. At this point, each partner would start making his partner wrong for every small thing mounting verbal or non verbal attack. They start perceiving everything done by their partners annoying and irritating. At this state not only emotional separation occurs but physical separation as well. If this stage is allowed then this leads to repression. Both partners tired of coping with anger, create emotional numbness. They avoid feeling pain but also avoid passion and excitement. This is most dangerous phase of relationship because at this point lovers or husband wife become roommates. Nobody will notice any problem because they never fight but there is no relationship left. They isolate each other. These are psychological challenges for married couple, lovers or couple with live-in relationship.
The final stage marks the end of the relationship, in the case of a healthy relationship, or separation between two of them.
The relationship has to be nurtured by values and rules of peoples with whom we have relationship. There is a quote of Anthony Robbins which is so true about enduring relationship. It says “Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give and not a place that you go to take”.
The external reasons being high levels of stress where people are forced to work in undesirable working conditions, which lead to frustration and anger. This is topped by the family pressure, which aggravates the situation further. This leads to perilous situations, like divorce in case of married couples or complete cut-off or non association from either side.
Lack of time is the common story in every household. Couples do not have time for friends, family, children, and even for themselves. The cut throat competition in the professional field and the household responsibilities do not leave any time for the partners. Thus, the connection between the two begins to fade. The luster and spark in the relationship becomes low, leading to rather monotonous relationship.
One of the most widespread challenges in a relationship is the threat of infidelity or adultery in case of married couples. In the present scenario, both the partners are working and spend a major chunk of the time away from each other. Even the remaining time is utilized in taking take care of other responsibilities. This does not provide partners enough time to please each other physically and emotionally. This leads to attraction outside marriage.
Lack of communication widens gap between married couples in a relationship. It can lead to serious problems, if not taken care of in time. The result might be an increasing the distance between the partners, alienating them and making them indifferent towards each others feelings, desires and wants. Therefore, it is utterly necessary for the partners to communicate with each other on regular basis, so that they can relate with each other effectively.
Finance related issues are amongst the most common challenges faced by couples nowadays. In a relationship, couples are expected to manage and cooperate in the expenditure and savings of their wealth. However, difference in opinion, with relation to the above-mentioned facts, can really cause problems. If they are business partners then Ambiguity in ambitions, expectations and strategy, with respect to finances, can be hazardous for them.
The first sign of challenges in relationship is when both partners begin to feel resistance. Resistance occurs when we take exceptions or feel annoyed or feel separate from a person. Most people do not communicate if they feel sense of resistance and this emotion leads to resentment or anger. People who begin to feel separate start building emotional barriers. This leads to further destruction of relationship which if not communicated will give rise to rejection. At this point, each partner would start making his partner wrong for every small thing mounting verbal or non verbal attack. They start perceiving everything done by their partners annoying and irritating. At this state not only emotional separation occurs but physical separation as well. If this stage is allowed then this leads to repression. Both partners tired of coping with anger, create emotional numbness. They avoid feeling pain but also avoid passion and excitement. This is most dangerous phase of relationship because at this point lovers or husband wife become roommates. Nobody will notice any problem because they never fight but there is no relationship left. They isolate each other. These are psychological challenges for married couple, lovers or couple with live-in relationship.
The final stage marks the end of the relationship, in the case of a healthy relationship, or separation between two of them.
The relationship has to be nurtured by values and rules of peoples with whom we have relationship. There is a quote of Anthony Robbins which is so true about enduring relationship. It says “Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give and not a place that you go to take”.
Wednesday, April 21, 2010
Basic Concept of relationships
There are lots of stories we hear of about man meet woman, boy meets girl. They talk for a few minutes and then they become friends for their life. What is the psychology behind this relationship? Why we long for relationship?
We human beings are fundamentally social creature. The term human bond, or more generally human bonding, refers to the process or formation of a close personal relationship, especially through frequent or constant give and take of thoughts. When pairs have favorable bonds, the nature of this bonding is usually attributed to "good" interpersonal chemistry.
There are several types of inter personal relations some of them are social associations, connections and affiliations. They take place under different context like religious association, meetings, clubs, and neighborhood between families, friends of different genders. Families are also part of interpersonal relation in which people get associated with each other by genetics. Relationship can be established by marriage like husband, wife, father-in-law, mother-in-law, uncle by marriage etc.
They are casual, formal to enduring relationships depending how deep we feel about them. There may be informal or loving relationship or romantic with or without live in long term relationship.
Platonic love in its modern popular sense is an affectionate relationship into which the sexual element does not enter. It is also beyond gender relation and beyond caste. It is also above sexuality and based on strong love of divinity. Minds of both individuals are directed towards appreciation of beauty based on consideration of divinity.
Friendship is considered to be closer than personal relationship because of degree of intimacy associated with it. The reason being the value that is found in friendship. It is based on tendency to give what is best for other. Also friendships demands trust, respect and often love with unconditional acceptance of each other.
Internet friendship and pen pal are also one kind of relationship developed at a considerable distance with a person with whom we have never met, whom we only know from the pictures we sent each other, or through handwriting, and things written to each other. The psychology behind them is the loneliness or similarity of thoughts.
Soul mate is the kind of relationship in which one has feeling of deep natural affinity, love, spirituality and compatibility.
The status of relation depends upon how we communicate and feel upon them. They vary in differing levels of intimacy and sharing; implying the discovery or establishment of common ground, and may be centered on something shared in common. The credibility of the relation totally depends upon the interpretation of the message by the sender and the receiver. If the message is taken in the wrong way then it is detrimental to the relation.
Interpersonal relationships are dynamic systems that change continuously during their existence. Like living organisms, relationships have a beginning, a lifespan, and an end. They tend to grow and improve gradually, as people get to know each other and become closer emotionally, or they gradually deteriorate as people drift apart, move on with their lives and form new relationships with others. The natural development of a relationship has five stages and these five stages are as follows.
1) Acquaintance
2) Build-up
3) Continuation
4) Deterioration
5) Termination
Success is worthless if we do not have someone to share with it. Our most desired human emotion is to connect with other people. These relations shape our character, values, beliefs and the quality of our life. So let us create special moments that can make our relationship a role model, the one that is legendary.
We human beings are fundamentally social creature. The term human bond, or more generally human bonding, refers to the process or formation of a close personal relationship, especially through frequent or constant give and take of thoughts. When pairs have favorable bonds, the nature of this bonding is usually attributed to "good" interpersonal chemistry.
There are several types of inter personal relations some of them are social associations, connections and affiliations. They take place under different context like religious association, meetings, clubs, and neighborhood between families, friends of different genders. Families are also part of interpersonal relation in which people get associated with each other by genetics. Relationship can be established by marriage like husband, wife, father-in-law, mother-in-law, uncle by marriage etc.
They are casual, formal to enduring relationships depending how deep we feel about them. There may be informal or loving relationship or romantic with or without live in long term relationship.
Platonic love in its modern popular sense is an affectionate relationship into which the sexual element does not enter. It is also beyond gender relation and beyond caste. It is also above sexuality and based on strong love of divinity. Minds of both individuals are directed towards appreciation of beauty based on consideration of divinity.
Friendship is considered to be closer than personal relationship because of degree of intimacy associated with it. The reason being the value that is found in friendship. It is based on tendency to give what is best for other. Also friendships demands trust, respect and often love with unconditional acceptance of each other.
Internet friendship and pen pal are also one kind of relationship developed at a considerable distance with a person with whom we have never met, whom we only know from the pictures we sent each other, or through handwriting, and things written to each other. The psychology behind them is the loneliness or similarity of thoughts.
Soul mate is the kind of relationship in which one has feeling of deep natural affinity, love, spirituality and compatibility.
The status of relation depends upon how we communicate and feel upon them. They vary in differing levels of intimacy and sharing; implying the discovery or establishment of common ground, and may be centered on something shared in common. The credibility of the relation totally depends upon the interpretation of the message by the sender and the receiver. If the message is taken in the wrong way then it is detrimental to the relation.
Interpersonal relationships are dynamic systems that change continuously during their existence. Like living organisms, relationships have a beginning, a lifespan, and an end. They tend to grow and improve gradually, as people get to know each other and become closer emotionally, or they gradually deteriorate as people drift apart, move on with their lives and form new relationships with others. The natural development of a relationship has five stages and these five stages are as follows.
1) Acquaintance
2) Build-up
3) Continuation
4) Deterioration
5) Termination
Success is worthless if we do not have someone to share with it. Our most desired human emotion is to connect with other people. These relations shape our character, values, beliefs and the quality of our life. So let us create special moments that can make our relationship a role model, the one that is legendary.
Sunday, March 14, 2010
LEARN ABOUT MANIPUR CHAKRA-THE SEAT OF “I CAN”
The name Manipur Chakra defines it as seat of shining palace. It is also called naval plexus where ten nerves conjoin to form a plexus. These nerves connect with Lever, spleen, small intestine, large intestine, heart, brain, lungs, kidneys, Gall bladder, adrenal glands, lower and middle back etc. It is connecting almost all the vital parts of our body and most important, it is most visible Chakra or plexus to our naked eye.
The Manipur Chakra is at the center of the body. It is the largest energy center in our body, influencing the digestion process in two ways. Firstly it helps assimilation of food and secondly strengthens universal life force i.e. Prana. It is from this plexus that universal life force radiates and distributes throughout our body system, regulating and energizing the activity of the various organs, systems and processes of life. At physical level a poorly managed Manipur Chakra pulls downs vitality of the body, increases nervousness and depression of a person.
It governs the sense of accomplishment, will, ego, vital energies, seed of personality, self esteem, confidence or insecurity, personal power, being self. It is also the Astral center of a person. The mind sets personal boundaries of what we can do and what we cannot do. The energy level is constantly changing at this plexus and therefore it is also the center of transformation.
Our personal growth and change stems from this center. The more it is balanced the more we are balanced in our work and accomplishments. An imbalance at this center takes away our ability to put idea into action. Also we may not understand situation and our role into it. A poorly managed Manipur Chakra gives inflated ego and self righteous behavior.
Awakening of this Chakra is nothing but unblocking of all conjoining nerves thus bringing balance to the energy that is generated at this Chakra. It is at this Chakra we become truly human if the consciousness or awareness which was preoccupied with personal matters transforms into universal awareness. The emotions become more subtle and richer. It is very important for person to exercise control over these emotions as these can bring great influences on the world and people around them.
It is at this plexus, the meditator can acquire the powers of “ESP”. It is at this Chakra one can experience emergence of ability of extra sensory perceptions. This ability of extra sensory perceptions makes a person hear extra sounds and other voices. It is also possible that subtle temptations may take over a person and he may fall for money, sex and power thus blocking his development.
Other than physical body or human body shell, we all possess universal life force shell, Thought or mind shell, Intellectuality shell and Transcendental Cosmic shell. All these bodies are subtler then each other. Transcendental Cosmic Shell is subtlest. All these bodies are connected with each other at this plexus. When we die except our physical body, all other bodies get disconnected and go their own way.
The Manipur Chakra is at the center of the body. It is the largest energy center in our body, influencing the digestion process in two ways. Firstly it helps assimilation of food and secondly strengthens universal life force i.e. Prana. It is from this plexus that universal life force radiates and distributes throughout our body system, regulating and energizing the activity of the various organs, systems and processes of life. At physical level a poorly managed Manipur Chakra pulls downs vitality of the body, increases nervousness and depression of a person.
It governs the sense of accomplishment, will, ego, vital energies, seed of personality, self esteem, confidence or insecurity, personal power, being self. It is also the Astral center of a person. The mind sets personal boundaries of what we can do and what we cannot do. The energy level is constantly changing at this plexus and therefore it is also the center of transformation.
Our personal growth and change stems from this center. The more it is balanced the more we are balanced in our work and accomplishments. An imbalance at this center takes away our ability to put idea into action. Also we may not understand situation and our role into it. A poorly managed Manipur Chakra gives inflated ego and self righteous behavior.
Awakening of this Chakra is nothing but unblocking of all conjoining nerves thus bringing balance to the energy that is generated at this Chakra. It is at this Chakra we become truly human if the consciousness or awareness which was preoccupied with personal matters transforms into universal awareness. The emotions become more subtle and richer. It is very important for person to exercise control over these emotions as these can bring great influences on the world and people around them.
It is at this plexus, the meditator can acquire the powers of “ESP”. It is at this Chakra one can experience emergence of ability of extra sensory perceptions. This ability of extra sensory perceptions makes a person hear extra sounds and other voices. It is also possible that subtle temptations may take over a person and he may fall for money, sex and power thus blocking his development.
Other than physical body or human body shell, we all possess universal life force shell, Thought or mind shell, Intellectuality shell and Transcendental Cosmic shell. All these bodies are subtler then each other. Transcendental Cosmic Shell is subtlest. All these bodies are connected with each other at this plexus. When we die except our physical body, all other bodies get disconnected and go their own way.
Saturday, March 6, 2010
LEARN ABOUT THE PATH OF SPIRITUAL ENLIGHTENMENT
The word yoga suggests union between mind, body and spirit. The appropriateness is not in meaning of the word but establishing connection of mind with individual cosmic consciousness and then with universal cosmic consciousness to attain spiritual enlightenment.
It is subject of great debate for a layman to decide starting point in yoga practice, as there are eight sections or extensions to manage body, mind and emotions. It all depends on temperament, constitution of mind and capacity to absorb techniques and philosophies of each individual. Everybody has to decide his own starting point to progress on this path of enlightenment. Each person has to decide his own direction and how he is going to reach there.
With balancing also comes the mastering of feelings and thoughts. The eight sections or extensions on which the whole system of yoga is founded are as follows.
1) Yama------------Abstaining from all form of evilness and falsehood.
2) Niyama----------Observance of mind
3) Asanas----------Postures
4) Prayanama-------Breathing exercises or mastering universal life force.
5) Pratyahara------Withdrawal of mind.
6) Dharna----------Concentration.
7) Dhyana----------Meditation.
8) Samadhi---------Absorption in pure consciousness.
To connect with individual cosmic consciousness, one has to manage mind and then body. There are special techniques to bring mind, body and spirit in perfect harmony. These techniques include no only toning the muscles and joints but entire endocrine system to vitalize them. While using exercise techniques, philosophical techniques are required to condition mind by cultivating universal love, wisdom and compassion. Also powerful breathing techniques are used to recharge whole body system with universal life force energy. Last but not the least, meditation techniques are used t o bring inner peace, allowing mind to explore higher realms of consciousness.
Meditation is nothing but a process of reversing the mind, of finding cause to the appearance and the cause to the cause till it reaches deepest truth. The necessary preliminary stage is to concentrate on an object element, then to concentrate intensely to take it far off till it reaches it object. There are four stages of concentration. The first stage is examination stage, where the mind becomes concentrated with the element. The second stage is distinction state where the outer surface of the element is penetrated. The third stage is the joyful peace, where we start experiencing perceptions with inner peace and fourth stage is simple awareness of individual cosmic spirit.
It is said that there are five shells or covers on the soul. These five layered existence of human being is as follows.
1) Annamaya Kosha---------------Human body shell.
2) Pranamaya Kosha--------------Universal life force shell
3) Manomaya Kosha---------------Thought or mind shell
4) Vidnyanamaya Kosha-----------Intellectuality shell.
5) Anandamaya Kosha-------------Transcendental cosmic shell.
All these techniques help breaking one shell after another, allowing conscious energy of our mind to flow through them; till it reaches transcendental cosmic shell to experience transcendental unity of mind with individual cosmic spirit.
Once this path of enlightenment is established, our mind undergoes process of forethought, where emotional and psychological conditioning is necessary to control consciousness flowing through body senses. Once conscious energy attains enlightenment, then no purpose of these senses is left for the soul. This is the state of liberation.
It is subject of great debate for a layman to decide starting point in yoga practice, as there are eight sections or extensions to manage body, mind and emotions. It all depends on temperament, constitution of mind and capacity to absorb techniques and philosophies of each individual. Everybody has to decide his own starting point to progress on this path of enlightenment. Each person has to decide his own direction and how he is going to reach there.
With balancing also comes the mastering of feelings and thoughts. The eight sections or extensions on which the whole system of yoga is founded are as follows.
1) Yama------------Abstaining from all form of evilness and falsehood.
2) Niyama----------Observance of mind
3) Asanas----------Postures
4) Prayanama-------Breathing exercises or mastering universal life force.
5) Pratyahara------Withdrawal of mind.
6) Dharna----------Concentration.
7) Dhyana----------Meditation.
8) Samadhi---------Absorption in pure consciousness.
To connect with individual cosmic consciousness, one has to manage mind and then body. There are special techniques to bring mind, body and spirit in perfect harmony. These techniques include no only toning the muscles and joints but entire endocrine system to vitalize them. While using exercise techniques, philosophical techniques are required to condition mind by cultivating universal love, wisdom and compassion. Also powerful breathing techniques are used to recharge whole body system with universal life force energy. Last but not the least, meditation techniques are used t o bring inner peace, allowing mind to explore higher realms of consciousness.
Meditation is nothing but a process of reversing the mind, of finding cause to the appearance and the cause to the cause till it reaches deepest truth. The necessary preliminary stage is to concentrate on an object element, then to concentrate intensely to take it far off till it reaches it object. There are four stages of concentration. The first stage is examination stage, where the mind becomes concentrated with the element. The second stage is distinction state where the outer surface of the element is penetrated. The third stage is the joyful peace, where we start experiencing perceptions with inner peace and fourth stage is simple awareness of individual cosmic spirit.
It is said that there are five shells or covers on the soul. These five layered existence of human being is as follows.
1) Annamaya Kosha---------------Human body shell.
2) Pranamaya Kosha--------------Universal life force shell
3) Manomaya Kosha---------------Thought or mind shell
4) Vidnyanamaya Kosha-----------Intellectuality shell.
5) Anandamaya Kosha-------------Transcendental cosmic shell.
All these techniques help breaking one shell after another, allowing conscious energy of our mind to flow through them; till it reaches transcendental cosmic shell to experience transcendental unity of mind with individual cosmic spirit.
Once this path of enlightenment is established, our mind undergoes process of forethought, where emotional and psychological conditioning is necessary to control consciousness flowing through body senses. Once conscious energy attains enlightenment, then no purpose of these senses is left for the soul. This is the state of liberation.
Monday, March 1, 2010
LEARN ABOUT THE TRINITY CALLED MIND BODY AND SPIRIT
Due to Scientific research, we all share the knowledge about how evolution of human body takes place through conception of male spermatozoa and female ovules within human bodies. Probably what we do not know that apart from being judged as mere physical matter, at sublime level it is just a shell or an abode to the most powerful and dynamic element called soul, an omnipresence of individual consciousness.
Our sustenance in this world depends on two life force energies, one called universal life force energy and another called universal cosmic energy. In eastern scriptures, universal life force energy is called “Prana Shakti” and universal cosmic energy is called “Kundalini Shakti”.
Universal life force energy plays active and passive role depending upon her flow through different plexus and also because of her adaptability to any kind of environment we live in. Thus this life force plays multi dimensional role and appears different at physical, psychological and emotional level of all human being. However universal cosmic energy has singular role of bringing sense of awareness or so called sense of being with.
The flow of these two energies is regulated through three nerves running from base of spinal cord to the head connecting all plexus through complex network of nerves. In eastern scriptures these three nerves are called “Ida”, “Pingala” and “Sushumna” or “Moon”, “Sun” and “Cosmic” nerve. The most important role of life force is to connect mind and body by infusing dynamism at all levels of mind and body. Not only our mind and body but this entire universe is live, active and flowing in rhythm due to this life force. Flowing in through right nostril and flowing out through left nostril completes the circuit of one breath of life force. At physical level although it takes few seconds to complete one breath, but that is enough for this life force which travels with speed of light, through main seven plexus and thousands of nerves; to charge billions of cells in our body, making them dynamic and active.
There are chiefly seven plexus in our body which are as follows.
1) Pelvic Plexus or Root Plexus or Muladhar Chakra.
2) Hypo gastric Plexus or Sacral Plexus or Swadhisthan Chakra.
3) Epigastric Plexus or Solar Plexus or Manipur Chakra.
4) Cardiac Plexus or Heart Plexus or Anahat Chakra.
5) Carotid Plexus or Vishudha Chakra.
6) Medulla Plexus or Adnya Chakra.
7) Cerebral Plexus or Sahastraar Chakra.
This energy is the last link between mind and body completing the circle by being as spirit between mind and body. Located at the root of spinal cord, it is said that universal cosmic energy is like serpent power, lying curled, with her tail into her mouth, sleeping below cosmic nerve in locked state, her head pointing towards downward direction. As long as it is sleeping, we loose many psychic powers available to manage natural balance between physical, psychological and emotional subtleties of our mind and body. However if this cosmic energy is awakened by meditation, breathing or any kind of yogic exercises and is allowed to enter cosmic nerve or Sushumna nerve, it rises on the top of the head and unites with the seat of universal cosmic consciousness.
Her awakening completely changes not only body but thoroughly changes emotional and psychological aspects of a person. When the veil of delusion is peeled away and the shell is broken, then the true innermost self is revealed. The mind ends its constant wavering between regrets of the past and uncertain future and comes to present moment. It is here one can experience higher plane of consciousness unknown to mankind.
This awakening process is not simple that can be brought in an hour. It has to be earned through years and years of meditation, breathing and postural exercises. Also several principles have to be adhered to experience this journey of self fulfillment. Important among them is self discipline which includes refraining from immorality, regular practice, truthfulness, non-violence and celibacy. Eating pure vegetarian food and drinking lot of water keeps body light and also keeps our mind calm. Sex brings attachment but complete suppression is also not necessary. It should be reduced and controlled as much as possible. Sleeping required by the body should be given. Relaxation of mind to release tension, stress, fear and worry is important to increase inner concentration and greater awareness. Positive thinking, patience and gentleness are other principles one has to follow to bring greater inner awareness about thought, speech and action to succeed in life.
However this duration can be shortened if it is done under expert instructor who himself should be down to earth, has attained enlightenment with universal cosmic consciousness and can warn his student indulging in any kind of adventures to refrain from it. Self realization is not a point but a process which connects us with timeless eternity where there is pure joy and an experience of nothingness.
Our sustenance in this world depends on two life force energies, one called universal life force energy and another called universal cosmic energy. In eastern scriptures, universal life force energy is called “Prana Shakti” and universal cosmic energy is called “Kundalini Shakti”.
Universal life force energy plays active and passive role depending upon her flow through different plexus and also because of her adaptability to any kind of environment we live in. Thus this life force plays multi dimensional role and appears different at physical, psychological and emotional level of all human being. However universal cosmic energy has singular role of bringing sense of awareness or so called sense of being with.
The flow of these two energies is regulated through three nerves running from base of spinal cord to the head connecting all plexus through complex network of nerves. In eastern scriptures these three nerves are called “Ida”, “Pingala” and “Sushumna” or “Moon”, “Sun” and “Cosmic” nerve. The most important role of life force is to connect mind and body by infusing dynamism at all levels of mind and body. Not only our mind and body but this entire universe is live, active and flowing in rhythm due to this life force. Flowing in through right nostril and flowing out through left nostril completes the circuit of one breath of life force. At physical level although it takes few seconds to complete one breath, but that is enough for this life force which travels with speed of light, through main seven plexus and thousands of nerves; to charge billions of cells in our body, making them dynamic and active.
There are chiefly seven plexus in our body which are as follows.
1) Pelvic Plexus or Root Plexus or Muladhar Chakra.
2) Hypo gastric Plexus or Sacral Plexus or Swadhisthan Chakra.
3) Epigastric Plexus or Solar Plexus or Manipur Chakra.
4) Cardiac Plexus or Heart Plexus or Anahat Chakra.
5) Carotid Plexus or Vishudha Chakra.
6) Medulla Plexus or Adnya Chakra.
7) Cerebral Plexus or Sahastraar Chakra.
This energy is the last link between mind and body completing the circle by being as spirit between mind and body. Located at the root of spinal cord, it is said that universal cosmic energy is like serpent power, lying curled, with her tail into her mouth, sleeping below cosmic nerve in locked state, her head pointing towards downward direction. As long as it is sleeping, we loose many psychic powers available to manage natural balance between physical, psychological and emotional subtleties of our mind and body. However if this cosmic energy is awakened by meditation, breathing or any kind of yogic exercises and is allowed to enter cosmic nerve or Sushumna nerve, it rises on the top of the head and unites with the seat of universal cosmic consciousness.
Her awakening completely changes not only body but thoroughly changes emotional and psychological aspects of a person. When the veil of delusion is peeled away and the shell is broken, then the true innermost self is revealed. The mind ends its constant wavering between regrets of the past and uncertain future and comes to present moment. It is here one can experience higher plane of consciousness unknown to mankind.
This awakening process is not simple that can be brought in an hour. It has to be earned through years and years of meditation, breathing and postural exercises. Also several principles have to be adhered to experience this journey of self fulfillment. Important among them is self discipline which includes refraining from immorality, regular practice, truthfulness, non-violence and celibacy. Eating pure vegetarian food and drinking lot of water keeps body light and also keeps our mind calm. Sex brings attachment but complete suppression is also not necessary. It should be reduced and controlled as much as possible. Sleeping required by the body should be given. Relaxation of mind to release tension, stress, fear and worry is important to increase inner concentration and greater awareness. Positive thinking, patience and gentleness are other principles one has to follow to bring greater inner awareness about thought, speech and action to succeed in life.
However this duration can be shortened if it is done under expert instructor who himself should be down to earth, has attained enlightenment with universal cosmic consciousness and can warn his student indulging in any kind of adventures to refrain from it. Self realization is not a point but a process which connects us with timeless eternity where there is pure joy and an experience of nothingness.
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