Many a times I have impulse to give goodness to those who do not merit and do not give to those who really deserve. Why this happens? This happens because I could not balance my emotions and rationality properly. When I started observing my mind deeper and deeper, I was stunned to find the truth many of us are not familiar with.
There is inner and outer facet to goodness. Goodness that stem from soul has divine aspect and that derived from mind has emotional element.
If mind supercedes the soul then we experience different kind of contentment. Exhilaration generated from mind is not enduring but is deceptive as we assume it be of enduring nature.
If the soul supercedes the mind then we go through a different kind of joy where we feel the touch of divinity. Divinity flowing throwing our soul is unconditional and unrestricted. It is like free flowing fountain of happiness and sacrifice. The pleasure derived is eternal in nature.
The relationship between them is of balancing each other. It is the confluence of magical moment, the critical circumstances and the holistic or rational approach that are crucial decider of final conclusion. The final outcome could be free flow of goodness or restricted flow of goodness from one person to another.
There was a story in some news paper which goes as follows. There was a man who was standing on wash out sea shore where thousands of fishes were lying on the shore. He saw a girl who was picking up each fish and throwing it in sea again. He asked her what she was doing. There are thousands of them lying on the shore and dying. Will it matter to all those are lying in thousands on the shore? She said yes it will not matter to those are lying in thousands, but will definitely matter to one whom I am throwing in the sea. The man is perfect example of restricted flow of goodness and the girl is the epitome of free flow of goodness.
It is also crucial to regularly monitor and keep knowledge of who deserves goodness and who are trying to ride on my emotions of goodness. Allowing them to ride on my posterior is one face of goodness. Another facet of goodness would be making them learn how to walk refusing politely to give them free piggyback ride. This knowledge will help them to walk forever without our help. I feel I ought to give away to those who merit to be given and not to those who are unworthy.
Professionalism, career enhancement, shrinking opportunities and diminishing resources are overweighed before I start goodness. I am standing at a juncture of life where I do not understand what I should do. I think it is unflinching faith in goodness and enjoying festival of life that ultimately matters.
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I totally agree with this face of goodness which you described by the words, "Another facet of goodness would be making them learn how to walk refusing politely to give them free piggyback ride. This knowledge will help them to walk forever without our help"..
ReplyDeleteYou cannot/should not keep giving to someone who cannot understand its worth, they get used to spoon feeding and there is a time in your life that comes, when you do not want to be a part of that relationship, something which meant very special to you at some point of time in your life but now because of your overdoing it only makes you feel more pressurized in the relationship and hence you start looking for ways to avoid confronting or being a part of it. It is you who decides where a relationship goes, sometimes goodness needs to be shown in different ways, as you rightly said here "to politely disagree to piggy back", if only people could do this, no relationships would ever mean burden.
Since when in your life certain relationships take the wrong turn, your goodness which led to this, also does another thing, the goodness never allows you to talk or go away and in turn you hurt yourself more each day. And if you are not a happy heart, you can't spread happiness to others. So automatically everything starts getting affected in your life.
But I do believe that it is never too late to understand and realize and start acting on your realizations. Happy to read this article from you, I am sure your writings can bring insight to many and help them deal with their lives hen need be. Shall read other articles as and when time permits, but do keep writing Uncle. I like reading your articles :)
And not to forget the Girl in the article, she did a good job, because one small good deed could lead to a big difference which we may not know now, but yes every fish she put in would have led to some goodness in the sea too